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Your Wedding Dance

Your Wedding Dance – It’s your music, your expression, your day.

dancing wedding coupleIn today’s wedding celebration, the wedding dance of the day is no longer always a Waltz.  It depends on the bride and groom’s love of music. It can be any song that expresses how you feel about each other.  As long as it is music, we can find the right dance to fit it.   Your wedding dance could be a Tango, Swing, Salsa or a romantic Waltz, Foxtrot, or Rumba.  It doesn’t have to be a typical 3/4 or 4/4 count. It is about how the song makes you feel.  Your wedding dance could actually be a combination of two dances, a slow and then a fast beat. I often choreograph a wedding dance that begins with a slow Foxtrot and then when the music switches its tempo we turn it into a lively Swing and back to a Foxtrot for a romantic ending. Your wedding dance can be as simple or extravagant as you want it to be.  It can have lifts to accentuate the emotion of the music or not.  It’s amazing how your special song will allow you to create a beautiful wedding dance that most expresses your love and your relationship together.

Beyond your wedding dance…

You may want to add a special father – daughter dance,  a mother – son dance, or a special wedding party dance to the mix.    Or, have a simple lesson to give everyone in the wedding party a few basic steps.

What would make your day special?  It is your day!

Wedding Dance Tips

  1. You would be smart to experience your wedding dance at the beginning of the reception.  The perfect time to do this is when you are introduced for the first time as Mr. and Mrs…  From then on, it’s party time.  No more nervous energy or worries.  The rest of the night is yours to enjoy and remember forever!
  2. It helps to know the size of the dance floor as soon as possible.  This makes it easier for your choreographer to create a beautiful dance fit for the room.
  3. The bride should be aware of the movement of the dress.  If she has sleeves, can she lift her arm straight up?  There will possibly be under arm turns in the routine.
  4. Do you have a form fitting dress?  Can you move in it?  Many of  my brides have the seamstress put in small hooks going down the side of the form fitting dress which is unhooked when the wedding dance is performed.  You would never know there were hooks until you unhook them for the wedding dance.
  5. When it is getting closer to the wedding I have the bride bring in a skirt or slip similar to the wedding gown.  During practice the groom can get used to his feet coming in contact with it.  He begins to realize he is not going to step on it.
  6. Once you feel you are comfortable with the wedding dance routine and the music:  It is important to practice with the actual shoes you will be wearing. ( bride and groom.)  Scuff the bottom of the shoes so you will not slip.
  7. If you have a wood floor where you will be performing your wedding dance, it is optimal to not wash the floor the day of the wedding.  It may stop your flowing movement because your shoes are sticking.
  8. If you are going to have the dance video taped, have the videographer see you dance the routine once.  This helps him/her be in the right position for special moves.
  9. Most important tip… enjoy!  This is your day!  You will remember it for the rest of your life…
How about The Tango!

The Tango!

Submerge into – the trenches of  TANGO
where the emotions are played out with ‘intensity’
 the loss, the power plays, the dramas.

Tango dancersIn the early 1800’s men and women of Europe were not in the habit of dancing in closed position.  In fact, the closest a man and woman would come to touching each other would be a slight grazing of the hands, while moving around in a circle.  There was the momentary man’s hand on the woman’s back.  Can you imagine the sensuality felt just by a mere brush of a hand…

Around 1850 when the Opera of Paris was going through some economically challenging times the director decided to have several actors dance a Viennese Waltz in closed position!  This was unprecedented!  And, it saved the day!  It kept the theatre seats filled for the evening performances…  It was also the beginning of  slowly breaking down the walls of social acceptance because Paris at the time, was the center of art and refinement.

Throughout history, women have always been attracted to a man who can dance.  How did dancing in closed position come into the open?   In the 1880’s  men would practice with other men in bars and gambling houses.  Tango made its way into the brothels where the hours would pass through the night while dancing with the local prostitutes.  Once it was common in the brothels, men would come home and teach Tango dancing to their sisters.  It was a tease, something they shouldn’t do, but loved to do.  Soon the common people began to dance the Tango in public while the elite still felt it was beneath them.

In the later part of the 1800’s Argentina became a rich and powerful country.  While they wined and dined other heads of state, they took the Tango out in the open and shared it with the elite.  Soon it was a common thread to share at any celebrational function, holding intact Tango dancing’s flavor of strength, passion, and sensuality.

When dancing close to one another the feminine and masculine energy is ignited.  It allows each individual to express their inner emotions.   It can be totally innocent where one needs to express who they are just on the dance floor.  Just like someone else blows off steam when playing sports.  It doesn’t have to break out into an assorted affair.

When one is in or out of a committed relationship and takes a dance class it allows the natural masculine or feminine energy to be heard.  It allows the healthy expression of who we are.

Yes! it is a great place to meet people as friends or romantic possibilities.  I have had 89 couples  meet in my class and get married.  And this is just the numbers I know about.

We are thankful to the dance of Tango which made it acceptable to hold each other close and enjoy the masculine and feminine expressions of who we truly are.

Ask your self which dance fits you? Dance & Energy